Clearing Away Imagined Issues That Hold Us Back

Numerous occurrences in our lives work in reverse.  The items we are quietest about are the items that are the most important to us.  The items that we are loudest about are often the ones with which we have the most insecurities.  Working off of this basis, and adding in experiential background, it is safe to say that the majority of individuals are being limited by issues they don’t reveal to others, and these issues may not even be based in reality.

When reading memoirs or autobiographies of individuals late in their lives, you often find that their multitudes of decisions made over their time could be attributed to certain occurrences or perceptions they had that were not based on something visible or realistic.  They were based on something that was either not expressed by them publicly, or was not even something that the rest of society would consider an actual basis for decision-making.  An incident in one’s youth, like the shattering of glass, when it dropped during movement, can cause someone to be hesitant in making decisions from that point on.  In the same way, a person can build up inhibitory ideas in their mind, that limit their activity, while everyone else that interacts with them will have no idea that these thought processes are retarding their potential performance/boldness.

Analyze the Issue

The procedure to handle this is to bring an issue of yours to light.  Take a thought process that you regularly work through, and assess whether it is based in a real response mechanism, or whether it is rooted in a foundation that has no merit.  Self-conscious individuals can be self-conscious even when it provides zero benefit for their daily processes.  Someone might go years being nervous about a physical issue that others take no notice of.  Self-consciousness like this is a complete waste of our thoughts and emotional health.

Pick One Issue To Start

It can be a bit much to be asked to examine all of your tendencies, so as with any other procedure, it is best to pick one, and focus on that for the time being.  You may have a worry that being too loud in public will get you a reprimand.  If this is the case, the first issue would be to see if you can think of any past examples where you were punished for voicing your opinion loudly in a public setting.  If you can’t think of any examples like this, it might serve as a foundation for your acceptance that you will probably not get punished for being verbally bold.  If you can think of an example where you were punished, it would benefit you to think of why you were punished in that instance, and if it was an isolated case.  The only memory that would be valid enough to prevent you from performing an action today would be one of an occurrence that, time and time again, resulted in failure or negative consequences.

There may be an item that is jumping out in your mind right now of an occurrence that you go through routinely that doesn’t seem to have value or benefit associated with it.  If that is the case, you already have the one to tackle decided.

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