Create Win-Win Situations

Win-win Weighing

You can benefit by taking part in more win-win situations. If you can avoid regular situations that have a losing and winning result in your mind, you can increase your ratio of upward movement, and this is because you will use less energy thinking that you could lose out in the process. What is the meaning of a win-win situation? Here is a description of what I am speaking of:

I will first give an example of that which is a regular win-lose situation. For example, there is a person that wants to join a group or organization. The person applies to one group and has in mind that he will either get to join or be rejected. This is a win-lose scenario that causes some worry during the process, and also can lead to disappointment afterwards. I’m not saying that all win-lose situations can be avoided, but some can be reframed into win-win situations before the result of them arrives, and actual win-win situations can be created as well.

Reframing A Win-Lose Situation As A Win-Win

Reframing situations into win-win situations is a mental exercise to be performed before the situation occurs. Let’s say that you are looking to do a deal with someone. There is a chance that the other person will accept the deal and there is a chance that he will reject it. You could go straight into the deal without setting up the situation in your mind, and the result of being rejected could have negative effects on you if the deal was important. The negative effects can be reduced by spending some time setting up the variables of the situation in your mind before it occurs. You could precede the meeting by laying out the possible outcomes as successes in other categories, in ways like this:

1. Keep in mind that the person is doing you a favor if he rejects your proposal, as it didn’t fit the requirements.
2. Know that the person you are dealing with will want to refer you to another person if he is not interested in accepting the deal.
3. Add the activity as another notch on the probability scale that one of your deals will go through. An increase in attempts serves to result in an increase of successes.

Ways To Create Actual Win-Win Situations

Creating actual win-win situations takes a bit more effort. One example is a surveyor asking people about a new invention and if they would want to use it. Some of the people surveyed will not want to take part in the survey. This is not a negative in this situation as it is another item that is logged into the results list by the surveyor. The surveyor can’t lose because any response is reported as a result in the survey. Another example is of a person that goes overboard on a project, such as by making a special art design. Creating material more complicated/exciting than the minimum requirements is a win-win situation, because the person going overboard either wins because it gets accepted, or wins because his project more than meets the requirements, and others will take notice of that. There are numerous situations where putting in a solid helping of effort will create a win-win situation.

14 thoughts on “Create Win-Win Situations”

  1. Hey Armen :}
    Just read this article and believe me, I wasn’t expecting anything else from you, a well-built article that makes perfect sense, with a huge plus, an easy explanation.

    Great Job.


  2. I’m with Henrique all the way… Superbly written (as all of your content seems) and very easy to absorb.

    I’m a fan of cutting useless ties and eliminating relationships that do not meet me at least half way.. kind of like ripping off band aids..

  3. Whilst all this is true, I reckon that those with a win win attitude that actually lose will suffer more rejection than a person going in with a win lose attitude.

    Although a positive attitude will certainly help bring out a positive outcome it does not necessarily make it so.

  4. Elijah, that is a solid point as they will drain your efforts. Sire, that is true if it is not a properly-planned win-win predicament, but if it is, both ends result in a victory.

  5. Brad: I like to hear that the material has sparked some forward-moving thoughts. The awesome article is for individuals such as yourself.

  6. Wow, that really makes you think. That’s a great post. It’s like when a deal to sell my pickup truck fell through a while back. I was very disappointed but then two days later someone else bought it at full price. I made an extra three hundred dollars because the first deal went bad. So now it’s an easy exercise to use that experience to mentally prepare for future deals.

  7. Brian: I like that we made a thought connection there. Also, having a real-world example like that adds support for the point. Creating a win-win situation before this predicament had occurred would have involved knowing that you would either retain your truck at its full value or obtain market value for it, as long as you did not settle for an unreasonable offer. Dealing with the time factor, of time going by during the process, could be done by finding a buyer each day or week, so that you would know that probability was working in your favor as time went on, negating the effects of lowering market value of the truck.

  8. This is a very nice article. I am a school student and have to present a speech on the following topic. This will help me a lot. I wanted to express my gratitude and acknowledge you.

  9. Great article Armen. I really liked the tips on reframing a “losing” situation. It can be too easy to see something as negative just because it didn’t meet one specific outcome that we had in mind when the reality is that there are often hundreds (or more) alternative outcomes that are still positive.

    An example I like to use is when you get down to the final two candidates for a job interview. Obviously the person who ends up getting the job will see it as a win, but what about the other person? They could moan and complain about being so close (i.e. see it as a loss) or they can think of all the valuable interview experience and feedback they received and use it help them in the future (i.e. see it as a win). It’s all just a matter of perspective.

    Keep up the good writing.
    Zac Sky

    1. Hey Zac. Thanks for the feedback. Perspective is a huge thing. I can look at everything as an obstacle or I can look at everything as an opportunity.

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