You might be in a situation where you have people around you that are not enjoyable to deal with, and yet you will have to deal with them for a fair amount of time in the future. This is not a preferred predicament, but there are some options you can take to turn the relationship around. It is up to you to try to take care of this earlier in your dealings with the individual(s), so that things don’t get out of hand.
One way to flip things over is to find the root cause of your own problem. The case is that a person is not able to bother you unless you allow them to do so. If the thought of working with a person is not appealing, there is a trigger caused by that person of a problem that you have. For example, someone may have a co-worker who handles the accepting of completed projects, and also have a tendency to turn most projects in a few hours late. Although the acceptor of the projects isn’t the actual problem, the frustration transfers from the person’s inability to get items in on time to the co-worker that is simply there to accept them late.
It is often the case that a person bothers us because they point out a flaw in our own procedure/actions. Once your own inconsistencies are dealt with, the person can become surprisingly easier to work with on a regular basis. They will probably also notice the changes you have made before anyone else.
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“a person is not able to bother you unless you allow them to do so”, I agree 100%. You pinpointed out the problem. Thanks
tnx mate. i usually try to accept people as they are and if they cross the line i just go away. now I understand the quite good explanation and option
I am glad the information was useful there Gegeen. That’s a straightforward approach to take about how to respond when others cross the line. Thanks for the support as well.
I’m a huge people person, and have been fortunate to be given the effortless ability to deal with people even in the most uncomfortable situations.
Analyzing your problems, and identifying the cause definitely makes interactions more tolerable as you have a much clearer vision fueling your actions.
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Elijah, that ability has to be kept in mind as it is something numerous individuals may not have. We have to be very cognizant of our current abilities because we do not want to look back with regret after finding out that we had something that could have easily been put to use, and which would easily set us apart.
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