If there is a person you know who cares for you, and they are putting in effort to make you a better person, you don’t want to take them for granted. It’s not good to do. This message is about folks outside of your family. You can build up a sense in your mind that you are worth so much that the individual and their caring is not a big deal to you, or that you are entitled to their concern, but this is not true in either sense. In that case, you are taking them for granted.
Are You Taking Someone For Granted?
Think about if there is someone or multiple people like this for you. Is there someone who is giving you energy on a regular basis, who you are getting the sense will always be there? Is there someone who is giving you honest feedback, to help you out directly, when others are too afraid or unconcerned to do the same? Do you know someone who you might be hurting, who is letting you get away with more than you deserve?
Accept Any Errors You Have Made
You have to accept the effects of what you may have done, or how you may have treated or viewed this person. One good way to understand this is to put yourself in their place. If I was trying my best to provide value and care for a person, and they did things that showed that they didn’t completely recognize this, it would leave me wondering about what they were thinking. “Why are they not recognizing the good intent I had in mind?” would be the thought taking place.
Recognize What You Can
Once you have put yourself in their shoes, you can go back into your own mind, and see what you have. Right now, you may have a person that fits this concept, and the opportunity is still there to tell them and show them that you appreciate their concern by reciprocating it. This could range from someone who you are very close with to an acquaintance who helps you in minor ways. Regardless of who the person is, they are a person just like you, and not recognizing and appreciating their selves and efforts speaks poorly about who you are.
Imagine Only You And The Person
One way to see this concept in a new light is to imagine that you are alone in a room with the person, and you are the only two people around. How are things different now? Do you now see them as the person they are, who is caring and helpful, when you are not distracted by others? Here are two pictures to help with this imagining:
There might be 20 other people in the “room” with you, but sometimes there is only one person in the “room” who is giving you a big benefit of the doubt, and who you are not showing appreciation for through your behavior. Remember that the room will feel empty without this person, even with the other 19 in it. It is up to you to take note of your current relational situations, because being left alone in the “room” is not something you want to experience.
Give others a bigger benefit of the doubt than they give you, and you should be fine.