“Sometimes people don’t want to ask their questions because they don’t want to appear to be the person in the room that’s not the knowledgeable person, and I could care less as long as I leave with the information that I need. I’d rather get it there than learn failing.” -Curtis Jackson from interview with Tavis Smiley
How many of us haven’t asked something or found out some information because of how we would look in the process? How many of us have missed out on opportunities due to not wanting to look stupid in front of someone else? Is it the constant test of our character to not be so consumed with protecting our image?
You may be consumed by thoughts of how others perceive you, and if this is the case, then you are likely holding back on finding out what the next step is, or who you need to talk to next. You might look stupid right?
Looking Foolish Is Temporary, Understanding Is Not
Is anyone wondering if Curtis asked a question about who some bigshot was ten or twenty years ago(example)? Your information-gathering is forgotten, and people look at who you are now. When Curtis says “I could care less”, he means that he isn’t foolish enough to weigh the current moment of looking un-knowledgeable as more heavy than years of not knowing. Some of us weigh “looking smart now” more heavily than years of having the information in the future, as ridiculous as that seems.
Find Out So You Can Move On
What happens when you get the information you need? You can move on to the next step. What happens when you don’t get it? You don’t move on, so you wallow at your level, maybe attacking others for moving, maybe being disappointed or frustrated about being stuck. It is like being stuck at level 2 in a video game. How long will it be before you start thinking level 3 is out of your reach?
Maybe in our minds, we imagine that someone will later say “Can you believe John didn’t know how to set his business up as a limited liability corporation?” If this happens, so what? Now you have a limited liability corporation and can move on to the next step. Our own inability to get the information we need is far more damaging to our future prospects than any other person’s disparaging comments will ever be, and those comments are not even likely to show up.
Are You Like Curtis?
Why Curtis’ words were so important for me to present is because I am sure that many don’t respond the same way that he does/did. While he said he “could care less” about the response, many care quite a bit about what the other person thinks when they ask what may be a very simple/low-level/obvious question. This is a main trait that separates Curtis from the general population, which has led to his millions in profit. He is the person who will find out the information now, while a more timid person will find out the information they need in, for example, two months, when Curtis has already set deals and plans in place.
This Is Just As Relevant For Dating
This is the same type of “could care less” thinking that makes it easy for Curtis to get a mate, because he “could care less” about the response, and will move on to the next attempt without a second thought, whereas the more timid person won’t even make the first attempt. If dating is a numbers game, then the type of people like Curtis out there will always win at the dating game. If it is not about numbers, but is about some other trait like confidence, he will still win at the game, because his “could care less” mode of presentation comes off as very confident, because someone who is not confident will care very much how they are responded to and accepted/rejected.
Get The Pencil So You Can Draw
The things we see people do, like starting corporations, or making certain business deals, or creating large membership-only groups, all started in their brains. The way you process and deal with the world results in what you later acquire. It is somewhat like our brains are drawing the man-made environment around us. Get the information you need and your brain can then do the drawing.