Get The Information You Need

“Sometimes people don’t want to ask their questions because they don’t want to appear to be the person in the room that’s not the knowledgeable person, and I could care less as long as I leave with the information that I need.  I’d rather get it there than learn failing.”  -Curtis Jackson from interview with Tavis Smiley

How many of us haven’t asked something or found out some information because of how we would look in the process?  How many of us have missed out on opportunities due to not wanting to look stupid in front of someone else?  Is it the constant test of our character to not be so consumed with protecting our image?

You may be consumed by thoughts of how others perceive you, and if this is the case, then you are likely holding back on finding out what the next step is, or who you need to talk to next.  You might look stupid right?

Looking Foolish Is Temporary, Understanding Is Not

Is anyone wondering if Curtis asked a question about who some bigshot was ten or twenty years ago(example)?  Your information-gathering is forgotten, and people look at who you are now.  When Curtis says “I could care less”, he means that he isn’t foolish enough to weigh the current moment of looking un-knowledgeable as more heavy than years of not knowing.  Some of us weigh “looking smart now” more heavily than years of having the information in the future, as ridiculous as that seems.

Find Out So You Can Move On

What happens when you get the information you need?  You can move on to the next step.  What happens when you don’t get it?  You don’t move on, so you wallow at your level, maybe attacking others for moving, maybe being disappointed or frustrated about being stuck.  It is like being stuck at level 2 in a video game.  How long will it be before you start thinking level 3 is out of your reach?

Maybe in our minds, we imagine that someone will later say “Can you believe John didn’t know how to set his business up as a limited liability corporation?”  If this happens, so what?  Now you have a limited liability corporation and can move on to the next step.  Our own inability to get the information we need is far more damaging to our future prospects than any other person’s disparaging comments will ever be, and those comments are not even likely to show up.

Are You Like Curtis?

Why Curtis’ words were so important for me to present is because I am sure that many don’t respond the same way that he does/did.  While he said he “could care less” about the response, many care quite a bit about what the other person thinks when they ask what may be a very simple/low-level/obvious question.  This is a main trait that separates Curtis from the general population, which has led to his millions in profit.  He is the person who will find out the information now, while a more timid person will find out the information they need in, for example, two months, when Curtis has already set deals and plans in place.

This Is Just As Relevant For Dating

This is the same type of “could care less” thinking that makes it easy for Curtis to get a mate, because he “could care less” about the response, and will move on to the next attempt without a second thought, whereas the more timid person won’t even make the first attempt.  If dating is a numbers game, then the type of people like Curtis out there will always win at the dating game.  If it is not about numbers, but is about some other trait like confidence, he will still win at the game, because his “could care less” mode of presentation comes off as very confident, because someone who is not confident will care very much how they are responded to and accepted/rejected.

Get The Pencil So You Can Draw

The things we see people do, like starting corporations, or making certain business deals, or creating large membership-only groups, all started in their brains.  The way you process and deal with the world results in what you later acquire.  It is somewhat like our brains are drawing the man-made environment around us.  Get the information you need and your brain can then do the drawing.

12 thoughts on “Get The Information You Need”

  1. The beginning reminds me of an experience I had as a young kid playing baseball. The coach asked the team if everyone knew what a certain sign meant, and to raise our hands if we didn’t. I didn’t want to be the only one not raising my hand so I didn’t. Then he called on me. “Okay, Steven what does it mean?” My body almost caved in completely. I felt even more stupid now…”Uh…I don’t know.” Man that was embarrassing…

    Oh Curtis Jackson is 50 Cent? I had no idea.

    1. Hi Steven.

      I think that example fits in exactly with the message Curtis was saying, and that I am looking to discuss here. I still do this in some ways. Why is it that we don’t ask the certain question. Regardless, it is highly beneficial to switch to this “could care less” mentality. That was good of the coach to get you on that.

      That sure is who Curtis Jackson is know as.

        1. Steven,

          That sure is the case. I have heard a portion of that audiobook. The messages in it apply to the competitive ones of us.

  2. Armen: I think this is great advice. We have to always be willing to educate ourselves and eliminate our blind spots. Yes, it may take some courage to do it in front of a room full of people, but I think it is important to have all the information you can and we really can pick up a lot of good information from the people around us. I think it is all about being confident and realizing that you are not supposed to know it all.

    1. Hi Sibyl.

      That sounds good. I sure don’t want to have blind spots, as you described there, as those lead to being stuck. Fittingly enough, your last post is about the best question to ask for perspective, so you feel for the power of questioning as well.

      We don’t need to know it all but we need to do what we can to find out enough. Nice follow-up.

    1. Hi Gail.

      I have no idea what you’re talking about. Actually, I do, but I am showing that I am able to show when I don’t know also.

      Your point about needing to be both humble and willing makes sense. A cocky person will turn down new information like it is not needed, and then later regret not getting it. Cockiness is a short-term thing.

  3. Hi Armen,
    I’m lucky that with all the weaknesses and flaws I have, I’ve never been afraid to ask questions to help improve my understanding of something. I also find that many people enjoy being asked as they enjoy imparting knowledge to others.

    1. Hi Gordie.

      This is true. It is good to not have this as a weakness of yours. I do also in fact enjoy answering questions at times, and I know others enjoy providing their specific bits of knowledge as well. If no one wants what we know of, we start to think it is not so relevant or valuable.

  4. This is a good one, Armen. Successful people embody the saying that “there is no such thing as a stupid question” (sometimes cliches are cliches because they are so true!). One tip to getting around this is to preempt the question by saying “Excuse me, I have a stupid question…” You automatically disarm your ego… and either way you get to be right… either you go ahead and ask a stupid question… or more likely, you ask a perfectly reasonable question that others may have had anyway.

    1. Hi Rob.

      I like your preemptive addition here. Saying those kinds of things is quite smart to then cancel out the possible bad feeling and still get the information. I do see some people use this type of method quite often, and while it can be somewhat annoying to watch someone else do this, it is probably only annoying because it is an efficient way to acquire knowledge and our competitive drive kicks in.

      Comments from you folks add quite a bit to a message.

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