Humbleness Is The Strategy Of Winners

Why should you be humble?  Cockiness has its benefits, but at the same time, if you are overconfident, and then make an error, which we all do from time to time, your error will come out looking worse than it normally would, because you will be torn down for putting out extra energy to bolster your attitude, instead of using that energy to avoid the mistake in the first place.

Your Appreciation Shows Understanding

This means to be appreciative in your actions.  Show people appreciation for what you have.  If you are in a good position, it is likely that someone helped you get there, and so you don’t want to step on them on your way up to an even better position.  They will still be there and there is no need to create animosity for no reason.  The word “animus” relates to the word “animosity” in that it represents an unfriendliness.

Modesty Is On Par With Showing Respect

Being humble shows a respect for whatever it is that you are doing.  Since people are much more supportive of a humble individual, and can be put off by a cocky person, being humble lets people know that you want their support, and aren’t looking to act out of line for your own short-term enjoyment.  When a humble person fails, no one is looking to tear them apart for their failure, because there was no presumptuousness present.  When someone is cocky and fails, everyone is ready to attack them for being so outlandish and forward in their behavior when their productive foundation was shaky.

Cockiness Leads To Stress

On a related note, a person who is cocky will always be more worried about possible failure, because that would cause them to have to acknowledge that their cockiness was unfounded.  That sense of worry adds anxiety that is unnecessary, and is completely obviated when humbleness is practiced.  If you are to have anxiety of any type, have it be in regard to something worthwhile and relevant, instead of an extended sense of self-worth that is only temporary each time it is displayed for others.

Example: Producing Content

When in the process of creating for others, it is wise to produce in such a way that you respect your listeners.  You need to put aside any feelings of exaggeration towards how valuable you are to others, and put that energy towards continued production.  People will let you know when you are starting to move out of line, versus when you are producing material in a calm and productive manner.  In this way, others are a constant feedback mechanism you can use to understand where you are in the humble/cocky spectrum.  This feedback is true in various other aspects as well, so it is wise to continue to deal with others as much as possible

Condescension Is A Mistake

The way you describe yourself and talk to others is easily perceived by those you are talking with as well as those who you aren’t talking to.  Both groups pick up on if you talk down to others, or talk to them as though they are equal, or commensurate, to you.  People assume that you will talk down to them if you are talking down to others.  Although some have not yet fully understood that we are all connected in our thoughts and the way we communicate, we innately respond to others as though we do understand this.

Viewing Others As Equals Opens Up The Conversation And Opportunities

Talking to others in a way that makes them feel as though they are not your equal serves no value to anyone, including you or them.  They will take it as an indirect message that you don’t value their presence, and you will not feel great once the interaction is over.  Much of the items I tend to point out relate to the concept that short-term gains are negligible in any comparison with that which can be gained by treating others with the same decency you provide yourself when you are in a focused state, or are using self-talk, or something of that nature.

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