When you see an animal not respond to an attack or pressure by adapting, you consider it a lower-thinking species. We look back on the dodo bird as lacking in intelligence for not running away when people close-by were serving as an offensive threat. Animals we see that don’t take action to protect their self-interests look to be missing the concept. In the same way, if you don’t take action that matches your interests, so that you can function well in the long-term, others will view you as confused or lacking in understanding.
Responsiveness Shows Vitality And Desire
The level of responsiveness you show correlates to the things you find important. If you are politically motivated you will jump at the first sign that someone is attacking your political views. People will quickly find out what you are willing to defend, and what you don’t find to be too relevant. When you show energy toward what you are doing, people will follow through with their own energy, and be glad for what you provided. They also might oppose your responses, but that will direct you toward a new place to voice your message in the way you desire. The sooner you speak out, the sooner you will be in your fitting environment.
Push Back
If someone pushes you, and you respond, your blood pressure might go up, but at least you would be in the process of defending yourself. On the other hand, if you don’t respond, you are indirectly telling the other person that you don’t feel you are worth defending. They will see this as a sign that your level of value is lower than it might be.
If You Don’t Make Your Points, Who Will?
This is also true when someone pushes you, so to speak, in a verbal communication. That is the time when you want to show them what you are made of, or else they will think you are not made of much. We often think we will look bad if we speak too strongly in a public setting, but later on when we are alone, the feeling of regret for not voicing our opinion will be even more tough to handle.
You Don’t Gain Anything By Holding Back
This is a point to cancel out any thoughts that keep you from expressing yourself. There are no gains to be had for holding back on your thoughts. Any assumed gains through manipulation or self-control are easily outweighed by the feelings of weakness that follow, or the feelings of anger/sadness for being out-shined in an argument/discussion. People that are quick to move on to the next step, and the next step, leaving others in their dust, are the ones who voice their opinion, and then assess how the response goes. If it is positive, they continue to voice it. If it is negative, they know they are in the wrong setting, and find a new audience or group. These types of people are unable to hold back from becoming influencers.
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Armen, people need to realize that everyone else is not awaiting for them to do a false move and then criticize them. On the contrary in the long run they prefer who has a strong personality and can express itself. Good post!
Oscar: That’s a good point. Feeling that others are looking to criticize doesn’t lend itself to creativity or pro-active expression. It also can serve as an item that unnecessarily takes up time. Thanks for that.