Comments on: Spoken/Written Words vs. Intent

By: Healthy Relationships: Be Truthful « MEDCRUNCH

Healthy Relationships: Be Truthful « MEDCRUNCH — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 18:31:44 +0000

[...] your power to them. It is like handing it over. If you lie to someone who doesn’t have your best intent in mind, and they find out, they will be quite glad because it represents weakness on your [...]

By: Armen

Armen — Sat, 18 Oct 2008 07:50:59 +0000

Matthew, that is one of those skills that I would guess that you are obtaining quite quickly at this time since you recognize your issue and have the internet to practice it through.
Sire, people sure do say things in person that don’t full represent what they would want to say.
Salwa, that moment of delay before speaking can make all the difference.

By: Salwa

Salwa — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 11:59:58 +0000

I agree with Sire it is important to take a moment to think before committing yourself to speak.

Great post.

By: Sire

Sire — Fri, 17 Oct 2008 02:49:20 +0000

I find that in actual conversations, because you have to speak on the run so to speak, many people do not have the actual capacity to enunciate their thoughts properly. So what they actually say does not represent their actual intent.

Sometimes it is advantageous to take a moment to think before committing yourself to speak.

By: Matthew Dryden

Matthew Dryden — Wed, 15 Oct 2008 05:33:45 +0000

The single biggest thing holding me back is my lack of proper verbal communication skills. I know what I want to say, but I have the worse time communicating it. I guess I need to think things though a little more…

By: Armen

Armen — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 18:56:24 +0000

I would add in that that third point is one that tends be more hidden than the others. We may think we are going along smoothly, and don’t realize that we are going along smoothly towards a goal that is not our own.

By: Elijah

Elijah — Tue, 14 Oct 2008 04:36:42 +0000

I tend to speak much more than I write – and out of your three points, the third seems to present the most challenge for myself.

Wasting time making an attempt to catch up almost always results in a vicious cycle of misdirection indeed.