In this age where technology and inter-connectivity abound, duplicity is not a trait you want to exhibit. Duplicity represents the act of covering up your real intentions with false intentions that you try to get people to believe are your actual ones. While this sneaky technique can seem like it would get people to help you more than they actually should, the negatives of maintaining duplicity outweigh the positives. Here I discuss how presenting an external image that matches your intentions is more fruitful in the long run:
Covering Up Your Intentions Heavily Slows You Down
Take an example of a person wanting to get a quick promotion in their company. If they were to conceal this interest, and proceeded to use methods like obvious flattering of a superior, pretending to do more work when others are around, etc., while acting humble when talks of promotions came up, their promotion would come far more slowly. With less time spent on producing actual results, and their mind constantly thinking about how they could seem more like a promotion candidate, a superior would have little substance to use when recommending them for promotion. Anytime you see a “success shortcut” working, check to see if the success is coming from something else that more than makes up for the failure of the shortcut. If something was truly a shortcut, it would most probably already be part of the regular process, as it would be a more efficient way to do things.
People See And Hear More Of You Than Ever Before
With the prevalence of cameras, data-tracking, social networking updates, and the like, it has become harder and harder to hide a portion of your interests from being seen by others, as you would have so many facets or areas that need to be continually kept in line with the false image. Companies track your company e-mail and computer usage. People have a very watchful eye for any signs that congruency is missing in someone’s character. We tend to want to make sure everything adds up, so that we aren’t being swindled by someone’s efforts.
When You Get Caught, Your Reputation Diminishes
The minute someone finds that you have been acting as though your intent was for one thing, but have in fact had a different goal in mind, they will want to tell as many people as possible to cut off any benefits you would have gained. These people might then inform even more people, and here you can see that all the time spent to cover up your actual intent becomes wasted time. It is very stressful to have this thought in the back of your mind, knowing that much of your time can be rendered worthless if one mistake shows up.
Help Comes When You Reveal Your Intent
The message to gain here is that, even though you don’t have to broadcast your intent and goals to the public(although it can help you quite a bit), it serves you well to refrain from trying to maintain a more positive image that is not truthful to your character, in order to manipulate others a bit more, as stress and problems arise from the minute you begin that habit. Some people will even help you more when they know what you really want.
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Don’t copy the content. Instead of that add your own experience,flavor and give it a personal touch,that’s the new mantra what do you say?
Ricky: That sounds good. Adding a personal touch is always the way to go. I agree with your mantra.