The assumptions you may have can be quickly found to be not true if you test them with your effort. You might assume that one opportunity is lost, or that someone doesn’t like you, or that you’ve lost a business partner, or that your abilities aren’t enough for the position you desire. Your assumption will remain true for you until you test against it. In your head, a person who you feel doesn’t like you will still be “against you” until you actually try to talk to them, or they try to talk to you, in order to clear up any misconceptions. In the same way, an opportunity that you see might be the real deal.
My Twitter user name was ‘ArmenShirvanian’. I originally tried ‘Armen’ when I signed up, but it was already taken, as basically all names were already taken two or three years ago, so I went with the first and last name user name. I was alright with this, as it is good to be glad for what is available.
A couple of weeks ago, I checked again and had noticed the user using the name ‘Armen’ didn’t seem to be using Twitter, except once every few months or more. I imagined myself in usage of it, and thought it would give me a boost when I would use it. There are hundreds of Armen’s online, and maybe they had tried it as well, but they didn’t take this next step.
I used Internet search methods, and then a few more steps, in order to be able to communicate with the user of the name, and let him know my intent and desires, as well as my goals with the name. Some would call this a shot in the dark, or effort spent for no reason, but once I thought of it, I had my mind set. I made a wholehearted attempt during the process, and presented the argument or reasoning I had in my mind, and it turned out the great Armen who was using the name supported my usage of it, and now I am on the name. I would like to publicly thank him here, as he liked the content on this site, and was quite friendly and supportive.
Making The Attempt Is The Main Event
This might be a small deal to some, but there is certainly a message to take away from this example. Before I got the response, which came maybe a week or two after I had sent my message, I had the feeling that my message had been ignored, and that the opportunity didn’t work out. However, I had made the attempt. There is a difference between telling yourself something won’t work out, versus trying it to see if it will work out. Lately there have been a few items that I had thought would certainly not come out in my favor, and when they did, it was not based on any worry or fear I might have had, but on effort I put out. If you take any of my examples and remove the effort I put in, the results that were remarkable to me would be guaranteed to have not shown up.
If you currently see something as out of your reach, or feel that you are lacking something to get it, that is okay, but only have that feeling if you have tried to get it. The orange might fall from the orange tree by itself, but it won’t hop onto your counter-top and turn itself into orange juice. You can imagine it as orange juice that you can drink, and hope that the orange is in good condition for juicing, but you have to juice it. Blaming the orange for not juicing itself, or complaining about a lack of orange juice, looks silly in this orange juice example, and that paradigm is silly in any related example as well.
Don’t Skip Out On Desire #1
Often times, people will tell you to find out what your wants or desires are. One problem that occurs during this process is that you think about something you desire first, and then doubt that you could ever get it, and then move on to thinking about a smaller desire you have. Now, you might then be able to pursue and acquire your second-best desire, but why did you skip your main one? The most motivation you will have will come with your main desire. Why can’t you get it? If you want to lose weight, or learn Swedish, or pass an employment or academic exam, there is no reason why you have to skip that desire, and end up working on your smaller desire of learning to play the trombone.
There is a book called “Ignore Everybody: and 39 Other Keys to Creativity“(not affiliate link), by Hugh MacLeod, and in the same way, you sometimes need to ignore yourself when your self instantly gives up on your main interest. Shakira’s song “Give It Up To Me” has a chorus line that says “Anything you want you can make it yours”, and this is what you need to think of first when your item of interest comes into your thoughts.
Everything Is Within Your Reach Right Now
To reiterate one more time, there were items that I thought were out of my reach, but I still went after them in some way, and then gave the results a chance to speak for themselves. After the process, it turned out that they were not out of my reach. That means that I was wrong in the first place to think they were out of my reach. This means that things I originally feel are out of my reach now are actually not. If that isn’t “empowering” to you, then we need a new word that means what “empowering” meant, and I will call it that.
Following in the example of this post, feel free to follow me on Twitter at @Armen.